The Ninth Step of Alcoholics Anonymous suggests that we make amends to those we have harmed. We make direct amends wherever possible, focusing on the exact nature of our wrongs. We take accountability for our actions. However, there is far more to amends than just making a direct amends. Living amends is the practice of changing [...]
The concept of Karma is often confused and lost, but it is an important part of both the Buddhist and Twelve-Step spiritual programs. The most common English translation of the word karma is “action.” In Buddhism, karma is the basis of samsara. In essence, karma is the foundation of the cause and effect relationship of [...]
“We attempt to sweep away the debris which has accumulated out of our effort to live on self-will and run the show ourselves. If we haven’t the will to do this, we ask until it comes. Remember it was agreed at the beginning we would go to any lengths for victory of alcohol.”
“Above all, we should try to be absolutely sure that we are not delaying because we are afraid. For the readiness to take the full consequences of our past acts, and to take responsibility for the well-being of others at the same time, is the very spirit of Step Nine.”
I often hear people quote the line in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous where it says, “Resentments are our #1 Offender.” I have taken this line as gospel, and done everything possible to purge myself of resentments. Furthermore, I try to prevent from acquiring resentments in the first place. However, after having a discussion [...]
I have found in my recovery that I must continue to take personal inventory ON PAPER. Simply trying to do it in my head does not work, and I fall behind. Furthermore, when I am doing a written inventory, I must also take the action to make amends where they are due.
The Twelfth Step of Alcoholics Anonymous states that we “try to carry this message to alcoholics, and practice these principles in all our affairs.” I think that some people understand this step differently than I do, and I would very simply like to share how I work my Step 12.
Many meetings across the country read the beginning of Chapter Five, entitled “How it Works.” A part of the reading says, “If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it – then you are ready to take certain steps.” This is important to remember [...]
Sometimes amends cannot be made to one’s face. Whether because of legal restrictions, courtesy to the person, or compassion toward others, amends sometimes should not be made directly to one’s face. This is not up to me to tell you where and when to make amends. I have had a hard time dealing with the [...]