Being in an intimate relationship in sobriety is difficult to say the least. Relationships are like steroids for my character defects; they cause them to grow more powerful than I imagined possible. From jealousy to control issues, my need to be right to my need to know everything, my character defects really come to light [...]
As an alcoholic or addict, we are often challenged by our running minds and endless thoughts. In Twelve-Step programs, we are encouraged to take action against these harmful thoughts. Buddhist teacher Thich Nhat Hanh offers us a four-step path of action to take against our thinking. He addresses both vitarka (initial thought) and vichara (developing [...]
I have found in my recovery that I must continue to take personal inventory ON PAPER. Simply trying to do it in my head does not work, and I fall behind. Furthermore, when I am doing a written inventory, I must also take the action to make amends where they are due.
The Fourth Step of Alcoholics Anonymous reads, “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” Many people who are going through the steps for the first time find this step overwhelmingly frightening. The principle of Step Four is Courage.
Thich Nhat Hanh says, “Today is the most important day of our lives.” He encourages living in the present as the path to happiness. Right Mindfulness is a crucial part of Buddhism, and is heavily stressed.
Before I got sober, I was ruled by fear. I often hear in twelve-step meetings the importance of turning my will and life over to a power greater than myself. Looking back throughout my life, I always was and am turning my life over to something, essentially giving it control. When I was using, I [...]
I was recently reading a passage in a book by the amazing Thich Nhat Hanh regarding Right Speech. It discussed a very interesting aspect of Right Speech that I had not fully considered before. Part of this practice is also learning to listen well. When practicing Right Speech, it is important to allow others to [...]
Practicing mindfulness has helped me realize just how much I do not achieve Right Speech. I generally do not gossip or talk bad about others while they are not there, and I try to say what I mean. However, sometimes while in a crowd I may join in on negative talk about someone. I also [...]